I miss her.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\nAs I started to write the first chapter, with the objective of the book being stories for my family, my grief took over. After I finished writing chapter one, I skipped to write the end of the book. I dropped my preconceived ideas as to what I envisioned the book to be and allowed my emotions to guide my writing. The focus became the anguish that I was going through, facing life experiences without Barbara, which brought to mind the many memories of our lives together. So . . . what started out to be a simple book of stories for my family, became weighty creative nonfiction.<\/p>\n
Writing this book was the most difficult project in my life and I have never before made such a commitment to any other project. Looking through “Shiva Eyes,” I wrote about various experiences as I searched for answers to understand whether Barbara had lived a good life, to identify her ability to overcome hardships, to learn if I had done all that I could for her, and to determine if she felt good and complete about her life, as she closed her eyes for the last time.<\/p>\n
This book is my gift to Barbara: We are thankful for the love we have. Because our love is not limited by a measurement of time, our love will continue on forever.<\/p>\n
I hope you will enjoy reading about our love story. Through laughs and tears, I enjoyed writing about it. So . . . be ready to smile, laugh and feel our romance and . . . make sure to have a box of tissues nearby.<\/p>\n
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My second book:<\/h2>\n
is currently being written, borne of the appreciation for the non-existence of cell phones when my children were young. And . . . with the hope that my children control the cell phone and texting usage by my grandchildren, during what should be family quality talking time.<\/p>\n
I was inspired to write this book while I was in the process of finishing up with my first book. While working on the final draft of that book, I reminisced about many of my family talks, storytelling, speeches, and joking around. I wanted to share my family experiences, with the intent to encourage and inspire others to evaluate their own. I was also inspired to write it because the rate of divorce is out of control, in addition to the current droves of unhappy and dysfunctional marriages.<\/p>\n
I hope this book will offer some ideas and an awareness about the opportunities for families to get closer to one another and have fun along the way. Or maybe this book will be a catalyst to inspire people to think about their family and come up with ideas to add new interests or excitement to their lives.<\/p>\n
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My third book:<\/h2>\n
will explore the world of middle-aged dating, which sucks. Okay . . . stop laughing. Seriously . . . that social phenomenon is an intriguing, fast growing one, as a result of so much divorce.<\/p>\n
My experiences may show that people would benefit from getting themselves in the right frame of mind when dating. And, it\u2019s wise to be prepared for the nuances to be faced or dealt with. As an example, should your date happen to say something like, \u201cI\u2019ll make it easy for you to remember my apartment number. I\u2019m in apartment 3-D and \u2018D\u2019 is my bra cup size.\u201d<\/p>\n
Well . . . you really need to know what to be prepared for after such a statement and understand what to possibly expect. That statement could be good news or bad news . . . just use your imagination. I\u2019m not going to begin to get into what to expect out of the mouths of men. I need to finish my second book first before I do.<\/p>\n
This book will be helpful for planning or starting to date. It will give you comfort to know that you\u2019re not alone in the world of dating. For everyone else, enjoy the laughs. But don\u2019t laugh too hard. Because, whether you\u2019re male or female, and even if you\u2019re already in a relationship or married, you\u2019re not exempt from the outrageousness of the opposite sex.<\/p>\n
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My fourth book:<\/h2>\n
is about nursing homes, where you can learn so much about life. It\u2019s a place where sadness meets hilarious.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m reminded of the time I picked up my mother from the nursing home to take her out for lunch. All was fine as we drove to the restaurant. I found a parking space right in front and walked around the car to help her out of the car. As I opened her door, I saw that she was crying and quickly asked,<\/p>\n
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\u201cMa, what\u2019s the matter? Why are you crying?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cMarc, each day I find something else that I can\u2019t do anymore. Now, I can\u2019t get out of the car,\u201d she answered.<\/p>\n
\u201cMa . . . yes you can get out of the car.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo I can\u2019t,\u201d she cried.<\/p>\n
\u201cYes you can, Ma. You just have to take off your seat belt first.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
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“Ma . . . wake up and smile. I’m taking our picture.”<\/span><\/p>\n[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ admin_label=”Approach” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_color=”#345168″ background_enable_image=”off” custom_padding=”||150px||false|false” bottom_divider_color=”#345168″ bottom_divider_flip=”horizontal” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_row admin_label=”Pricing” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_color=”#ffffff” max_width=”900px” custom_margin=”|||” custom_padding=”30px|30px|30px|30px|true|true” animation_direction=”bottom” use_custom_width=”on” custom_width_px=”900px” global_colors_info=”{}” border_radii__hover_enabled=”on|desktop”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.16″ custom_padding=”|||” global_colors_info=”{}” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_text admin_label=”Package” _builder_version=”4.16″ header_2_font=”||on||||||” global_colors_info=”{}”]<\/p>\n
My fifth book:<\/h2>\n
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The goings-on left an impression on me. The dynamics of what seemed to be causing change, with people panicking to sell their homes, was confusing. In the late 1990s, I began to study and write a book about the 1950s\/\u201960s Brooklyn.<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t get very far with that book. I had a demanding job and a family. Writing a book, which was intended as a study project and a learning experience, was too demanding of my already busy schedule. Plus, along with my time constraints, my OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) made writing a book back then even more impossible for me. After I lost my wife, I developed DGASD (don\u2019t give a shit disorder), which toned down my OCD. Also, I have more time now to devote to writing books.[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ admin_label=”About” _builder_version=”4.11.2″ background_color=”#ccd8e5″ custom_margin=”|||” top_divider_color=”#345168″ top_divider_flip=”vertical” bottom_divider_color=”#345168″ bottom_divider_flip=”horizontal” global_module=”1351″ saved_tabs=”all” locked=”off” global_colors_info=”{}” custom_padding__hover_enabled=”on|desktop”][et_pb_row column_structure=”1_2,1_2″ use_custom_gutter=”on” gutter_width=”1″ _builder_version=”4.16″ background_color=”#CCD8E5″ max_width=”900px” custom_margin=”|||” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”1_2″ _builder_version=”4.16″ custom_padding=”|||” global_colors_info=”{}” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_image src=”http:\/\/marcgellman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/marc-gellman.jpg” alt=”Marc Gellman” title_text=”marc-gellman” align=”right” _builder_version=”4.16″ transform_translate=”-23px|10px” transform_rotate=”0deg|0deg|357deg” box_shadow_style=”preset1″ global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=”1_2″ _builder_version=”4.16″ custom_padding=”||||false|false” box_shadow_style=”preset3″ box_shadow_horizontal=”-6px” global_colors_info=”{}” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_signup provider=”mailerlite” mailerlite_list=”Mailer Lite|51965451186472453″ last_name_field=”off” success_message=”Thanks!” title=”Stay in Touch” description=”<\/p>\n
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